Facebook

[Mr Wallstreet]

My Boss just sent me a friend request and in one fell swoop, destroyed it's fun for me.

I really don't want to "Friend" him but I don't want him to get all pissed off at me.

Why?

:banghead:

Why?

:banghead:

Why?

:banghead:

Did he have to try and "Friend" me? Isn't he aware of the boundaries between employee and employer? This is almost as bad as him asking to hang out with me during a *shudder* social situation

[IrishCream]

how'd he find out you had it?

[Mr Wallstreet]

Almost everyone in my office has it and one day we were discussing and my co-worker asked me if I was on it, and I said "yes". I should've just kept my stupid :censored: mouth shut.

Y'know what? I shouldn't be bitching. I deserve this. This is my just punishment. Go ahead, have at me!

http://i.pbase.com/v3/09/168509/1/49864278.BeforetheWhippingBegins.jpg

[ChimeraCreative]

... after you add your boss to facebook can I start strip-teasing on your FB wall? ^_^

[Mr Wallstreet]

The last thing I want to do is add my boss to my facebook. I don't need him seeing the pictures of me "performing CPR" on Sandman

[IrishCream]

can I "out" you on your wall?

[ChimeraCreative]

The last thing I want to do is add my boss to my facebook. I don't need him seeing the pictures of me "performing CPR" on Sandman

That was CPR? That wasn't even on my list of "100 things those pervs are doing". Therefore, I find your CPR explanation quite dubious. ^_^

[Mr Wallstreet]

No plz. My boss is a homosexual. The last thing I want, or need, is to accept his friend request and then get outed by you. He might think I'm coming on to him and try and ask me out on a date.

While this may seem homophobic, rest assured it is not. If I went trolling for man meat, I could any guy I want. I simply do not want to have to reject my boss's advances and wind up getting fucked (figuratively) at work by being fired.

[ChimeraCreative]

You could tell your boss Sandman was a cute (albeit un-photogenic) lady in order to hide your shame. ^_^

EIDT: Yikes, I withdraw my funniez. >.<

[Junkogen]

Computer... 700 dollars

Internet... 30 dollars

Wally's boss finding him on Facebook... priceless.

:rofl:

[Mr Wallstreet]

That was CPR? That wasn't even on my list of "100 things those pervs are doing". Therefore, I find your CPR explanation quite dubious. ^_^

It may have been unorthodox but it worked. Before I could say "jailbait", Sandman was taking deep, hard breaths.

[IrishCream]

No plz. My boss is a homosexual. The last thing I want, or need, is to accept his friend request and then get outed by you. He might think I'm coming on to him and try and ask me out on a date.

While this may seem homophobic, rest assured it is not. If I went trolling for man meat, I could any guy I want. I simply do not want to have to reject my boss's advances and wind up getting fucked (figuratively) at work by being fired.

...you're not convincing me otherwise

[IrishCream]

please note my

[Mr Wallstreet]

Computer... 700 dollars

Internet... 30 dollars

Wally's boss finding him on Facebook... priceless.

:rofl:

It wasn't that hard really. It's not like I was a John Smith or something. :mad:

[Mr Wallstreet]

...you're not convincing me otherwise

Right now I have no threat I can use to make you fear me. Accept for filling your mailbox with my angsty poetry from when I was an adolescent.

[Junkogen]

No plz. My boss is a homosexual. The last thing I want, or need, is to accept his friend request and then get outed by you. He might think I'm coming on to him and try and ask me out on a date.

While this may seem homophobic, rest assured it is not. If I went trolling for man meat, I could any guy I want. I simply do not want to have to reject my boss's advances and wind up getting fucked (figuratively) at work by being fired.
:rofl:

:smilielol5:

:svengo:

:dead:

[ChimeraCreative]

It wasn't that hard really. It's not like I was a John Smith or something. :mad:

So be Farhan on facebook by day and Wally on facebook at night. You can wear a cape and your undies on the outside. ^_^

[Mr Wallstreet]

So be Farhan on facebook by day and Wally on facebook at night.

Oh no. I've seen what secret identities lead to. Just look at Michael Jackson

You can wear a cape and your undies on the outside. ^_^

Um we already covered the topic of "undergarments" quite thoroughly while we were at the Con and uhm...Yea, it won't work :( :lipsrsealed2:

[Mr Wallstreet]

:rofl:

:smilielol5:

:svengo:

:dead:

It's supposed to work the other way around. Your suffering should bring me pleasure :mad:

[IrishCream]

Right now I have no threat I can use to make you fear me. Accept for filling your mailbox with my angsty poetry from when I was an adolescent.

I'll just send it to your boss and let him know it was from you. I'm sure that'll give him a huge mega gay boner

[Mr Wallstreet]

Maybe I should just not answer the friend request. I won't accept it but I won't ignore it either.

[ChimeraCreative]

It's supposed to work the other way around. Your suffering should bring me pleasure :mad:

I thought Junk's pleasure brought us suffering... :svengo:

[Mr Wallstreet]

I'll just send it to your boss and let him know it was from you. I'm sure that'll give him a huge mega gay boner

I sometimes wonder if he signs my paycheck with that...

[Junkogen]

Maybe I should just not answer the friend request. I won't accept it but I won't ignore it either.

Eventually he's going to call you out on it. You must choose, but choose wisely. For while one choice may secure your anal virginity, the wrong one might take it from you.

:rofl:

[Mr Wallstreet]

I thought Junk's pleasure brought us suffering... :svengo:

Junk's pleasure brings suffering. Junk's suffering brings sufferings.

He's like Pennywise the Clown

[Mr Wallstreet]

Eventually he's going to call you out on it. You must choose, but choose wisely. For while one choice may secure your anal virginity, the wrong one might take it from you.

:rofl:

But surely the passive-aggressive route will deliver me from having to make such an awkward choice.

[Mr Wallstreet]

Junk's pleasure brings suffering. Junk's suffering brings sufferings.

He's like Pennywise the Clown


Btw: This is Junk's first gig as a comedian:

http://www.orlandosentinel.com/media/photo/2008-03/37151410.jpg

:) :D

[IrishCream]

Just pretend you hardly ever go on facebook and therefore didn't see his friend request

[Junkogen]

Just pretend you hardly ever go on facebook and therefore didn't see his friend request

Yeah, but if he outright asks him if he got the request then what does he do?

[ChimeraCreative]

I think you need to bite the bullet and do it, Wally. You have to find your boss a boyfriend that will completely monopolize his time and keep him off facebook. ^_^

[jedispyder]

I've had a couple of my employees add me on Facebook, it doesn't really affect me. But I do agree there are limits, like I definitely wouldn't add my boss or anyone in my family...

[Mr Wallstreet]

Thank you CC, Irish, Jedi and Pennywise for your input. I guess I'll decide what to do a bit later on. For now I am off to bed.

Stay precious all of you

[ChimeraCreative]

I was going to tell you to "stay something" as well, but thought better of it. For now, just keep your boss out of your blind spot. ^_^ Nighties! I'm about cooked for the night too. Must be getting old.

[jedispyder]

My suggestion is just ignore like it never happened. Act like they never friended you, or quite easily say "sorry but I really don't want to mix work with social life"...

[Tragic Angelus]

While I'm not in the same situation, I am friends with past professors on Facebook, and even family members, and so far it's not that big of a deal.

Immediately after adding them I watched my wall and status stuff kinda close to make sure it wasn't overly offensive to them or something they could call me out on, but anymore I just don't care. My family members know how and who I am, so their opinion means nothing on that aspect really, and my professors have never written on my wall, messaged me, or anything, other than one using the chat to contact me really quick because we were working on a research project together. That's really it.

All in all, I think as long as you don't publicly bitch about him or your job on Fbook, you should be safe. Just do it here

[wolf_2099]

Just tell him you aren't comfortable crossing that work and friends line. You'd prefer to keep the two separate, especially since he is your boss.

[William McDert]

I have all my relatives and such on facebook. For a while I shut off my wall but I turned it back on because who cares! They know me as a relative when I'm awesome, and maybe I have some friends that curse and say weird shit, but you can always delete comments from people. Just don't have pictures of you snorting heroin and it'll be fine.

Cam, I don't think using the work and friends line will suffice. In this day and age, it would seem pretty douchey I believe. And it would totally fuck with office politics, no matter how much it shouldn't.

[ChimeraCreative]

Immediately after adding them I watched my wall and status stuff kinda close to make sure it wasn't overly offensive to them or something they could call me out on, but anymore I just don't care.

I actually have the opposite problem... I can't believe some of the stuff some of my friends do/say on facebook. Really, how many times can a person swear in one sentence, eh? :svengo:

[William McDert]

btw, if you are on my facebook please play the word challenge and boost my ego even more as you wont come close to my high score.

[ChimeraCreative]

btw, if you are on my facebook please play the word challenge and boost my ego even more as you wont come close to my high score.

That sounds like a filthy rotten scoundrel challenge you filthy rotten scoundrel man. En garde (laters)!

[MGM]

Just tell him you aren't comfortable crossing that work and friends line. You'd prefer to keep the two separate, especially since he is your boss.

This sounds like sound advice.

On the Dutch equivalent of FB I've got co-workers listed as friends, but that's something entirely different than my boss. Of course, I hardly ever use it, but if you [i]do[i/] use it and feel uncomfortable with it, go with Wulf's suggestion.

[IrishCream]

Yeah, but if he outright asks him if he got the request then what does he do?

Pretend to black out and not recall the conversation? Yeah, say that the word "Facebook" is the trigger word for your episodes. Then pretend to black out again to play up your angle.

I dunno, you'd probably have to bite the bullet then. And I agree with Kid that talking to him about it won't help.

[IrishCream]

This sounds like sound advice.

On the Dutch equivalent of FB I've got co-workers listed as friends, but that's something entirely different than my boss. Of course, I hardly ever use it, but if you [i]do[i/] use it and feel uncomfortable with it, go with Wulf's suggestion.

I just feel like saying that would kinda put him at odds with his boss. I mean, it shouldn't, but it probably would.

[Mr Wallstreet]

All in all, I think as long as you don't publicly bitch about him or your job on Fbook, you should be safe. Just do it here


That's the whole purpose of Facebook in particular and the internet in general. Bitching about others :)

[Mr Wallstreet]

I can't exactly use the "seperation of friends and work" line because I've got a few co-workers on my FB.

But you guys are right, because he is my boss he should recognize that trying to create a relationship/friendship outside the four walls of our office is somewhat inappropriate as it puts me between the proverbial rock and hard place.

If I accept his friend request, he can (potentially) see all my dirty laundry. If I say no, I run the risk of offending him which may result in backlash and awkwardness at work.

Besides, I can tell that this is nothing more than a ploy to get into my pants. He's so transparent.

I should just slap him.

...

Do we have a "pimpslap" emoticon?

[William McDert]

Jesus christ just add him you pussy.

[William McDert]

I mean, add him AFTER he asks you why you haven't.

Don't accept or deny until he accepts. He might just think you WANT to befriend him on there and was just being nice. If you just let it hang there and pretend you don't notice it (which happens all the fucking time so it wouldn't be that unbelievable) he might actually appreciate this act.

[Mr Wallstreet]

Quickie response: I'm not adding him

EDIT:

And not in the passive aggressive-way either.

[CountD]

I need to DO FACEBOOK

[CountD]

shouting...

[William McDert]

Keep it down, Ed's taking a nap. His baba is still halfway in his mouth. So kyoot!

[Stocky Boy]

Contrasting all of this, I'm friends with my boss and previous boss from a different department on Facebook.

I keep any potentially dangerous stuff in private messages and most of the times I'm pretty confidant that my wall, although sometimes provocative, will not get me into any trouble.

Plus my boss is cool. We talk about our favourite TV shows, video games and just generally have a good laugh throughout the day, even when we're waist deep in work.

How awesome for me, heh? :D

[Mr Wallstreet]

Contrasting all of this, I'm friends with my boss and previous boss from a different department on Facebook.

I keep any potentially dangerous stuff in private messages and most of the times I'm pretty confidant that my wall, although sometimes provocative, will not get me into any trouble.

I don't want to become anything more than a work colleague to my boss. Admittedly, many of my experiences with supervisors have been negative which has skewed my perception of "management". I've seen managers pull some douchey things on their subordinates, co-workers and I've also been on the recieving end of their douchery a few times myself.

Also, I don't want to censor my wall. I want to post pics where I am in homoerotic postions with other men in seedy bars, or administering fellatio to giant statues, or post raunchy, dirty jokes.

Plus my boss is cool. We talk about our favourite TV shows, video games and just generally have a good laugh throughout the day, even when we're waist deep in work.

How awesome for me, heh? :D

You sound like a Teacher's Pet ;)

[ChimeraCreative]

You sound like a Teacher's Pet ;)

Like a stunning pedigree with impeccable standards, grooming and a superiority complex towards his handlers. But a Teacher's Pet nonetheless. ^_^

[Mr Wallstreet]

Do you suppose Stocky also carries his boss's briefcase for him? ;) :D

[Mr Wallstreet]

I should just slap him.

...

Do we have a "pimpslap" emoticon?

:pimp:

^
:smilielol5: That is so hilarious. Thank you for that

[Stocky Boy]

He fetches me water when I'm thirsty. Really no shit. True story. :)
To be fair, we take turns - fetching me water. :D

I'm really fortunate in my place of work. I haven't had a bad boss. I've had problems and little arguments, but it I always performed well or exceptionally and got my promotions without any hassle. They always recognised my contribution to the company, operationally and my contribution to good vibes around the office. In fact, why am I tip toeing around the key point here, which is, it's fair to say, my good relationship with my boss can be entirely attributed to my personality. :D

From the looks of it Wally, all you have to do is be more like me and then you'll be able to establish an exemplary good-buddy/good worker relationship with your boss and can freely accept his friend request on Facebook. :D

The first way you could imitate me is to lose the tie and wear an Armani belt. :D ;)

[ChimeraCreative]

Am I to take it that Stocky is checking Wally's pedigree now? *teehee*

[Mr Wallstreet]

He fetches me water when I'm thirsty. Really no shit. True story. :)
To be fair, we take turns - fetching me water. :D

From the looks of it Wally, all you have to do is be more like me and then you'll be able to establish an exemplary good-buddy/good worker relationship with your boss and can freely accept his friend request on Facebook. :D

The first way you could imitate me is to lose the tie and wear an Armani belt. :D ;)

All jokes aside, it really is great that you're able to have that kind of positive and professional relationship with your bosses.

If you recall I had that kind of relationship with my bosses way back when I was at Citibank and HSBC. It's just that now I see all supervisor's as people who will potentially try and screw you over in the future whether they want to or not and for that reason, I'd just as soon as not get all buddy-buddy with them.

Although your idea to sport an Armani belt intrigues me. Tell me more of this

[Stocky Boy]

Well you see, what you need is a Dad who forgot your birthday one year to feel guilty about his forgetfulness and then make up for it by buying you one. :)

It's nice and shiny!

Looks a lot like this one:

http://www.sohob2b.com/uploadfiles/Arnani%20belt03.jpg

[jedispyder]

If you recall I had that kind of relationship with my bosses way back when I was at Citibank and HSBC. It's just that now I see all supervisor's as people who will potentially try and screw you over in the future whether they want to or not and for that reason, I'd just as soon as not get all buddy-buddy with them.
Being a supervisor, I really don't want my interviewers to see me in this way. Most of them I was an interviewer with and they supported my promotion, but at times it feels like I'm treated more like an interviewer and less like a supervisor. There is a fine line for me between being uber-serious and allowing for a relaxed environment.

[ChimeraCreative]

The last time I was employed for real, I got along way too well with the manager in my department. We ran around doing stupid, crazy shit. And after work she'd call my place all the time to see what I was watching on tv, get homework help for her daughter, etc. It was a lot of fun for two years. And when that bubble burst, well, it wasn't just an awkward time at work, one of us had to quit. Obviously it was me, The Bum of the Ages. Everyone I know kinda clucked their tongue, shook their heads and said 'it never pays to get to chummy with your boss.' Holy fuck they were right.

[Mr Wallstreet]

^

Toldja so

[ChimeraCreative]

^
Toldja so

Where were you two years ago with that pearl of wisdom, eh?

[Mr Wallstreet]

I was here, but I was not here.

[Fasheem]

The last time I was employed for real, I got along way too well with the manager in my department. We ran around doing stupid, crazy shit. And after work she'd call my place all the time to see what I was watching on tv, get homework help for her daughter, etc. It was a lot of fun for two years. And when that bubble burst, well, it wasn't just an awkward time at work, one of us had to quit. Obviously it was me, The Bum of the Ages. Everyone I know kinda clucked their tongue, shook their heads and said 'it never pays to get to chummy with your boss.' Holy fuck they were right.

But it sounds like you had a great two years!

I have two former bosses on Facebook. I hate them both but will not unfriend them. *proceeds to look for her new coworkers on FB*

[MGM]

You can unfriend people? Will they notice themselves?

[ChimeraCreative]

You can unfriend people? Will they notice themselves?

I notice if the number drops, but there's no notification of who it was. I figure some people close their account cuz they don't like facebook or have folks on their bothering/stalking them.

[ChimeraCreative]

But it sounds like you had a great two years!

I have two former bosses on Facebook. I hate them both but will not unfriend them. *proceeds to look for her new coworkers on FB*

I've never felt more alive or more useless in all my life. ^_^

[Python]

I would just not respond to it. If he approaches the subject to you, you can always say "Oh, I haven't seen it yet!" and then continue not responding.

[Stocky Boy]

What if he says, "okay, I'll send another friend request"? :D

[XIII]

I have un-friended most of my work colleagues. It was toot much shit to deal with considering I was the manager of most of them.

[Python]

What if he says, "okay, I'll send another friend request"? :D

Ignore that one and play dumb. :cheesy:

[Stocky Boy]

Ignore that one and play dumb. :cheesy:


What like, "I'm sorry, I have no idea what this 'Bookface' website is". :D

[JediMindTrick]

even worse when yer in the navy, supposed to be all professional and shit...ah well.....

[The French Biscuit]

While I'm not in the same situation, I am friends with past professors on Facebook, and even family members, and so far it's not that big of a deal.


I've got some family member on my Facebook (two of my cousins), but they know I'm weird already so anything I post (see Photoshoped album) will probably be glossed over.

Though I haven't seen them since I started that album...I bet Jason will comment. :D


All in all, I think as long as you don't publicly bitch about him or your job on Fbook, you should be safe. Just do it here

Meh, but he is your boss. It is kinda weird that he's even asking. I'd ignore it until he asks about it, if he even does, and then add him just to seem like the nice guy.

Best scenario would be that hel never even logs on to Facebook after that and things continue as they are. Worst case would be he tries to be your "friend".

If he asks about any of the images your tagged in, say you have no recollection of those events. If it's the Achievements Never Cease poster, just say "Oh, that's Steph's. She's weird." :)

[wolf_2099]

I can't exactly use the "seperation of friends and work" line because I've got a few co-workers on my FB.


I would just like to point out having co-workers is a huge difference between your boss.

[Stocky Boy]

Yes it totally is.

But if your name is Stocky Boy you are bullet proof. :D

[wolf_2099]

And a huge attraction for gay pedophiles.

[Stocky Boy]

You have no proof that fabulous creator was after my arse! :D

[Mr Wallstreet]

Oh no, he wasn't after your ass at all. He just enjoyed telling you stories in which people had sexual awakenings and realized they were gay :D

[Mr Wallstreet]

I would just like to point out having co-workers is a huge difference between your boss.

Exactly! Which is what made this all the more awkward. He is my boss. He will never be my friend. Ever.

I hang out with plenty of my colleagues socially but not my boss. It would just be weird.

[Goshin]

i have never touched facebook and never will lol im a musician and they dont let u do half the shit u can on myspace.



mocospace is good for booty calls though





www.myspace.com/AllTymeMuzik

JediMindTrick/Brad on my buddy list and i talk to him every now and then

[jedispyder]

That's why you do like some do and create a Facebook just to direct people to your MySpace...